This week we will be focusing on understanding our triggers and corresponding physiological responses by plotting them on our “Feel-o-meters” according to intensity. We all naturally apply specific coping skills to regulate our responses and most of us only employ one or two. In this week’s class, we will introduce and practice additional coping strategies.
We often show low level cues that we are being triggered prior to a meltdown, our job as parents and professionals is to pick up on these cues and educate our children and ourselves as to how best deal with them.
We recommend students self advocate (with prompting at the beginning from an adult) to take safe breaks. It is important that children are able to find a safe place in the home and the classroom for such breaks. Interestingly, because it forces one to have controlled breathing, blowing bubbles (yes, the good old-fashioned soap bubbles) is an effective strategy for students young and old. Other strategies which work are self massage and pressure points, stretching, guided short meditation, swinging, deep breathing and heavy lifting.
These techniques can be used in the traditional classroom as well. You don’t need to have an IEP or a formal diagnosis for your child to incorporate some of these strategies into their school. We have found that working with schools and giving ideas, thoughts and suggestions as to what will help fend off a major meltdown is often not only accepted, but embraced.
3 comments:
"I believe that my son's obstacles are communication and sensory issues. I agree with the comment above on rigid thinking.
I love the concept of exceptional behavior. In the past I've used "appropriate" and "inappropriate" behavior. I am much more comfortable with "expected" and "unexpected" as it doesn't infer bad/weird behavior. It seems that the new terms are having a more positive effect on my son so far."
From Tonya Frye
Executive Director
Desperate For Respite
www.desperateforrespite.com
respite4all@yahoo.com
About a year ago, I introduced Gabby to a fun way of identifying her emotional state, while redirecting behavior, using one of her favorite shows: Phineas and Ferb. We labeled the kids according to their behaviors.
1. Phineas: always kind and talks to everyone
2. Ferb: always kind, but quiet and tends to ignore bad behavior
3. Candace: sometimes kind, but tells mom when she gets upset about something
4. Buford: not kind, and hurts others by saying bad things or hitting them
5. Dr. D: never kind, lost all control as he tries to take over the tri-state area.
*Our goal right now is to be like Ferb or Candace. Someday, we hope to be like Phineas!
I like the example above of a child personalizing the levels on a scale. Many times kids will use colors, numbers, and various metaphors so that the emotional thermometer makes sense to them. One common metaphor I've seen used is weather so it might go from cloudy, to rainy, to thunderstorm, to tornado, to hurricane.
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