This week’s lesson focuses on accepting responsibility, conflict resolution and "I" statements. We will be focusing on re framing, or reconstructing, statements so that they are no longer “blaming” statements. A few examples of what we’ll be doing are:
Blaming statement: "Mom, he hit me!"
Re-constructed: I took his toy and then he got mad and hit me
Blaming statement: "She made me mad!"
Re-constructed: I was frustrated by her screaming and tattle telling
Re-constructed: I was frustrated by her screaming and tattle telling
Blaming statement: You hate me!
Re-constructed: I feel sad when you tell me no/don't pay attention to me, etc.
Re-constructed: I feel sad when you tell me no/don't pay attention to me, etc.
Homework recommendations; try using your phone or a tape recorder to record a blaming statement and then play it back for your children to hear. Next tape a “taking responsibility” statement and play it back to them--hear the difference. For students who are more visual we recommend charting, writing with pictures and/or words the blaming statements and then re-constructing it into "I feel_______ when________ happens".
